It’s the time of year when we celebrate academic achievements at graduation ceremonies across the country and the world. Commencement is a beginning of a lifetime of learning. It’s also a time when students begin to create their professional narrative.
In her 1968 anthology of essays, ‘Slouching Towards Bethlehem’ author Joan Didion writes about character and self-respect. Her words provide wisdom for all new graduates beginning to navigate the world of work.
“Character – the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life – is the source from which self-respect springs.”
“Self-respect is a discipline, a habit of mind that can never be faked but can be developed, trained, coaxed forth…To have that sense of one’s intrinsic worth which constitutes self-respect is potentially to have everything: the ability to discriminate, to love and to remain indifferent…Without it, one eventually discovers the final turn of the screw: one runs away to find oneself, and finds no one at home.”
“To live without self respect is to lie awake some night beyond the reach of warm milk….counting up the sins of commissions and omission, the trusts betrayed, the promise subtly broke, the gifts irrevocably wasted through sloth or cowardice or carelessness. However long we postpone it, we eventually lie down in that notoriously uncomfortable bed, the one we make ourselves. Whether or not we sleep in it depends, of course, on whether or not we respect ourselves.”
Character is the foundation of our American Dream. Belief in self is the foundation of success. Being comfortable with who you see in the mirror each day is the definition of self respect.
If we continue to learn from the wisdom of others, we will sleep well most nights and have plenty of warm milk to sustain us as we write our story.

